The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to respond.

I don’t know the exact origins but for many years now I have often said to colleagues that we have two eyes, two ears and one mouth, and that is the proportion in which we should use them.

The management literature abounds with entreaties for us to listen better, to develop listening skills, to be reactive listeners, and to listen first before speaking.

But have we learnt the lesson? Experience would suggest not.

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Seeking to be Creative? Listen with spirit

Wisdom, insight, change and action come not from better thinking, testing and strategising, but from letting go, receiving and listening.  

Group creativity appears to exhibit a common spirit revealing itself. The vehicle for receiving this insight or connecting with spirit, is a quality of detached, selfless openness. It is like emptying oneself or creating a vessel for receiving and containing spirit.  

Source:  Levine L (1994) Listening with spirit and the art of team dialogue. Journal of organisational change management. 7(1):61-73